 |
| How to Heal After a Breakup with Real Stories by Kiran |
Table of Contents
I am Kiran… and if you are reading this, then maybe you too are going through the same phase that I once went through.
That relationship… in which I kept putting my heart and soul, but the other person kept running away from me every time.
Today I will tell you the truth from my heart – how to heal after a breakup is not just about healing your wounds, but also about understanding what storm arises inside that person who once took you lightly, when you move on.
1. Your total silence — their biggest fear
When I stopped talking to him after the breakup, I thought he would be happy.
But the opposite happened… within a few days, I started getting messages from him asking, "Are you okay?"
Actually, a person with an avoidant attachment style assumes that you will always be attached to him.
When you adopt no contact, you take away his biggest weapon – control.
👉 I know, at this stage you will feel like talking to him, but believe me, this is the time when you have to save yourself.
If you think this will be easy, then listen to my story - I once opened the door on his return… and then the same old fights, the same coldness.
So, if you really want to know how to heal after a breakup, then it is most important for you to maintain your silence.
📌 And if ever your mind wavers, reading this will help — Understand His Anger
3. When they realize you are happier without them
This part was the most fun… and the most relaxing.
A few months after the breakup, I started indulging in little joys for myself –
morning coffee, laughing with friends, new hobbies…
I posted a photo on Instagram – smiling, standing on the beach.
Within a few hours, I got a message from him –
"Looks like you are very happy…"
Yes, I was happy.
And this is what hurts them - when you start living more without them, they realize that they were never the reason for your happiness.
This is where their illusion breaks.
📌 If you are wondering how to do this, read here — Find Peace in Your Life
4. When they realize they were the problem
While in the relationship, he always made me feel like it was my fault —
"You think too much"
"You're too demanding"
But when I distanced myself from him and started taking charge of my life, he had to admit for the first time that he was the real problem.
If the problem had been me, I would still be stuck there.
But I had moved on, and that hurt him the most.
My truth—and the way to you
If you are at this stage right now, I know you too must be having a thousand questions inside you —
"Will he remember me?"
"Will he regret it?"
Remember, this journey is not just about them… it's about you.
How to heal after a breakup means making yourself strong enough so that whether they come back or not, your peace and happiness will not be affected.
I changed my life by being silent, holding back my feelings, and choosing my own happiness.
You can too… and it will be the biggest shock to him when he sees that you have created a new, beautiful life without him.
📌 Another guide that can help you — My Husband Is Always Angry — A Journey from Hurt to Healing
last thing
You deserve a love that accepts you for who you are,
not a love that makes you constantly doubt yourself.
Starting today, write a new chapter in your story — one where you are the hero, and your happiness doesn't depend on anyone else's approval.
